How to Help Your Partner Experience a Squirting Orgasm: A Complete Adult Guide

May 17, 2025 – Clara Whitmore

Female squirting orgasms, also known as female ejaculation, are a fascinating and often misunderstood aspect of female sexuality. Unlike the common belief that women only experience clitoral orgasms, the reality is that women can have a variety of orgasmic experiences, including squirting. This guide will delve into what squirting orgasms are, how they work, and provide a step-by-step guide on how to help your partner achieve this intense and pleasurable experience.

What Is a Squirting Orgasm?

A squirting orgasm occurs when a woman's G-Spot is stimulated to the point where liquid is released from the urethral sponge during orgasm. This fluid is produced by the Skene's glands, which are located in the spongy tissue surrounding the woman's urethra. It’s also known as female ejaculation. While not all women squirt during orgasms, and not all orgasms lead to squirting, this unique form of climax is a natural and healthy response for those who can experience it.

Is Female Ejaculation Just Urine?

This is a common concern—and the answer is no, female ejaculation is not urine.

·        The fluid released during squirting is produced by the Skene’s glands, which are located around the urethral sponge.

·        While the urethra is the exit point for both urine and ejaculate, analysis has shown that the expelled fluid is chemically different from urine.

It is often clear or milky-white, and typically lacks the strong ammonia scent associated with urine.

That said, the proximity of the bladder to the G-Spot means that many women feel the urge to urinate during the process—which is completely normal.

Preparing for a Squirting Experience

Before attempting to help your partner squirt, a few key preparations can make the experience more enjoyable, relaxed, and mess-free:

1. Have Her Empty Her Bladder

This reduces anxiety about urination and helps her relax. Since the area being stimulated is close to the bladder, the urge to pee is common.

2. Set Up Towels or Blankets

Squirting can produce a significant amount of fluid. Lay down clean towels or waterproof blankets to avoid mess and ease any tension about cleanup.

3. Remove Performance Pressure

Let her know there’s no expectation or goal—this is about pleasure, exploration, and connection. Squirting is not a requirement for sexual fulfilment.

The Role of the G-Spot

The G-Spot is a small, spongy area located on the anterior (front) wall of the vagina, about 1.5–2 inches inside. It feels somewhat different from the rest of the vaginal tissue—often ridged or slightly rough, like the roof of your mouth.

When properly stimulated, this area can become engorged with blood and highly sensitive, contributing to deep, internal orgasms and sometimes squirting.

Steps to Induce a Squirting Orgasm

Step 1: Build Arousal Gradually

A squirting orgasm requires a high level of arousal. Begin by stimulating areas that increase sexual tension and relaxation:

• Caress her inner thighs, breasts, lower belly, and neck.
• Engage in clitoral stimulation—this helps build strong sexual energy in the pelvic region.
• Use deep breathing, soft words, and mutual eye contact to deepen connection and relax her body.

Look for signs of arousal:

• Swelling of vulva and clitoris
• Wetness and warmth in the vaginal area
• Moaning, deeper breathing, body movements indicating pleasure

Step 2: Locate and Stimulate the G-Spot

Insert one or two lubricated fingers inside the vagina with the palm facing upward, and gently curl them toward her belly in a “come hither” motion. You may feel a spongy or ridged area—this is likely the G-Spot.

Here are different ways to stimulate it:

• Come-Hither Motion: Gently stroke the G-Spot with a "come hither" motion, curling your fingers toward your palm.
• Tapping or Pushing: Lightly tap or push on the G-Spot with your fingertips.
• Circular Motions: Use small circular movements to stimulate the area.
• Combined Stimulation: Stimulate the G-Spot with your fingers while using your thumb to stimulate the clitoris externally.

Prostate Massager or Sex Toys:

• Prostate Massagers: These toys are designed to target the G-Spot and can provide intense, rhythmic stimulation. Use them with lubrication and vary the speed and pressure based on her response.
• Other Sex Toys: G-Spot vibrators, dual-stimulation toys, or remote-controlled vibrators can also enhance the experience. Experiment with different shapes, sizes, and intensities to find what works best.

Pelvic Thrusts and Body Positioning:

• Pelvic Thrusts: Encourage your partner to make pelvic thrusts to meet your fingers or toy, enhancing the depth and angle of stimulation.
• Body Positioning: Experiment with different positions to find the most comfortable and pleasurable angle. Positions like spooning, reverse cowgirl, or standing can provide deep penetration and G-Spot access.

Step 3: Keep a Steady Rhythm

As she becomes more aroused:

• Gradual Intensity: Start with gentle stimulation and gradually increase speed and pressure as arousal builds.
• Deep Breathing: Encourage your partner to take deep breaths, focusing on relaxing and letting go.
• Verbal Cues: Communicate with your partner, asking for feedback and adjusting your technique based on her responses.
• Maintain Rhythm: Once you find a rhythm that works, maintain it until she reaches orgasm. Don't stop suddenly, as this can disrupt the buildup.
• Use lubrication to reduce friction and enhance comfort

Step 4: Help Her Release and Let Go

During this stage, she may feel an intense urge to urinate. Reassure her this is normal and encourage her to relax and push out, not contract or hold it in.

Remind her to:

• Breathe deeply
• Focus on sensations
• Trust the process

If squirting is going to happen, it will usually occur just before or during a strong G-Spot orgasm. Don’t stop once she starts to climax. Maintain the same rhythm and pressure until she fully releases or asks you to slow down.

Post-Squirting Tips

• Continue Stimulation: Some women enjoy continued stimulation after squirting, so be open to extending the experience.
• Cuddling and Aftercare: Engage in intimate cuddling and aftercare to reinforce the emotional connection and ensure your partner feels loved and supported.
• Don’t rush. Her body may still be sensitive or open to further pleasure.
• Hydrate and relax. Squirting can be physically intense and emotionally vulnerable. Be gentle and supportive.

What If She Doesn’t Squirts?

That’s totally okay. Every woman’s body is different. Some may never squirt. Others may only do so under specific conditions. The goal isn’t the liquid—it’s the shared pleasure, trust, and intimacy you create together.

• No Pressure: Remind your partner that squirting is not a requirement for sexual fulfillment. Focus on the journey and the pleasure shared together.
• Explore Further: If she doesn't squirt, explore other techniques or try again another time. Every woman's body is unique, and what works for one may not for another.

Important Considerations

• Consent and Communication: Always respect boundaries and communicate openly about desires, discomforts, and expectations.
• Avoid Over-Stimulation: Be mindful of signs of pain or discomfort and adjust your technique or pressure accordingly.
• Hydration and Cleanliness: Ensure good hygiene practices, including trimmed and clean fingernails, and encourage your partner to stay hydrated for optimal sexual health.

Final Thoughts

Squirting can be a deeply emotional, powerful, and blissful experience. With the right mindset, technique, and patience, many couples can explore this together. Whether your partner squirts or not, the journey of intimacy, trust, and exploration is what truly matters.