The Four Types of Lovers—Which One Are You?

May 4, 2025

Love might feel personal, but science says it comes in patterns. A new study grouped romantic partners into four distinct types based on factors like obsessive thinking, emotional intensity, sex frequency, and relationship commitment—and the results say a lot about how people experience passion.

So, which type of lover are you?

1️⃣ Mild Romantics (20%)

These lovers are, well, mild. They showed the lowest levels of commitment, passion, and sexual activity. Only about 25% believed their partner was truly in love with them, and just under 83% reported having sex at all.

Their relationships? Quiet, low-key, and not always emotionally charged. Think: minimalist in bed and heart.

2️⃣ Moderate Romantics (41%)

The most common group, moderate romantics are described as “entirely unremarkable” (ouch). These folks are steady but not spicy—committed, somewhat sexual, and emotionally balanced.

They lean male, often have fewer children, and tend to keep things comfortable and routine. Date nights? Sure. Spontaneous love letters? Not likely.

3️⃣ Intense Romantics (29%)

These are the “crazy in love” types—high commitment, high emotion, and high sex drive. They obsess, they connect deeply, and they feel everything intensely.

About 60% of this group were women, and their relationships are often marked by passionate highs (and sometimes dramatic lows). Expect a playlist of breakup songs even when things are going well.

4️⃣ Libidinous Romantics (10%)

Only 10% of the group—but definitely the most unforgettable. These lovers averaged 10 sex sessions a week, sometimes hitting 20.

But don’t think it’s just about lust—they also scored high on emotional intensity, commitment, and yes—obsessive thinking. Many were in serious relationships, but didn’t live with their partners. (A conscious choice, perhaps, to keep the sparks flying?)

They were also more likely to:

• ✈️ Crave travel

• 💸 Spend lavishly

• 🚬 Smoke cigarettes

Call them hedonistic or just really, really alive.

💘 Love Is More Than a Feeling—It’s Biology

Researchers say romantic love actually triggers measurable hormonal and neurotransmitter shifts, often lasting up to two years. After that, it typically evolves into companionate love—still strong, but more cozy than carnal.

“Humans may still be evolving in how they express love,” the study’s lead researcher noted.

🛏️ Adults Villa’s Take

Love isn’t one-size-fits-all—and that’s what makes it hot. Whether you’re a chill Mild, balanced Moderate, burning Intense, or wild Libidinous, there’s no wrong way to love. Just… maybe stock up on lube if you’re in Group 4.