Breaking the Silence: Addressing Painful Sex in Women

May 2, 2025

Endometriosis and Intimacy: One Woman’s Journey Toward Pain-Free Sex

For many women, painful sex remains a silent struggle—one often brushed aside or misunderstood. But for Lauren Richardson, a 25-year-old woman living with endometriosis, the discomfort was anything but minor. What began as occasional pain during intercourse grew into a persistent issue that affected both her physical well-being and emotional intimacy.

“I started to think the pain was just part of being a woman,” Lauren shared. “But eventually, I realized something wasn’t right.”

Lauren was diagnosed with endometriosis after undergoing laparoscopic surgery, a procedure that confirmed the presence of the condition, where tissue similar to the lining of the uterus grows outside it—causing chronic pain, inflammation, and, often, painful sex (also known as dyspareunia).

Her breakthrough came not only through medical intervention but by expanding her understanding of sexual health. Working with a pelvic floor physiotherapist, Lauren began to experience relief and learned that intimacy doesn’t have to revolve solely around penetration. This shift in perspective transformed both her healing process and her sex life.

“Sex is more than just penetration. It’s about connection, pleasure, and trust,” she explained. “Learning to explore that made all the difference.”

Experts say Lauren’s story is far from unique. Pain during sex affects a significant portion of women, yet it remains deeply stigmatized. Medical professionals stress that pain is a symptom, not something to be endured. And like any symptom, it deserves treatment and attention.

“A multidisciplinary approach is key,” says a leading Melbourne-based sex therapist. “Pelvic physios, acupuncturists, gynecologists, and mental health professionals can all play a role in helping women reclaim their pleasure and confidence.”

At Adults Villa, we advocate for open conversations around sexual wellness. Pain during sex isn’t just a medical issue—it’s a relationship issue, a confidence issue, and a quality-of-life issue. And most importantly, it’s treatable.