38 Women Reveal Their Hottest Sexual Fantasies — Plus Tips to Bring Them to Life With Your Partner

By Naydeline Mejia and Sophie Saint Thomas | Published: May 1, 2025

Sexual fantasies — everyone has them, but they come in all shapes and sizes. Whether it’s a wildly kinky scenario, a romantic fantasy straight out of a steamy novel, or something a little off-the-wall, your imagination is your playground. From the thrill of lesbian strap-on play to secret rendezvous with your boss, or even a Regency-era romance à la Bridgerton, there’s no “normal” when it comes to what gets your motor running.

Research confirms that sexual fantasies are nearly universal — studies show that 90% to 97% of people fantasize regularly. So, whatever naughty daydreams fill your head, you’re in very good company. And the best part? These fantasies are not only normal but can be a healthy and exciting part of your sex life — especially if you decide to bring some of them into reality.

But before diving into role-play or setting up a laundry room rendezvous (yes, that’s a surprisingly common fantasy), it’s important to understand what fantasies really are, how to talk about them with your partner, and how to explore them safely.

What Are Sexual Fantasies — And Why Do We Have Them?

Sexual fantasies allow you to explore desires and curiosities in a safe mental space. As certified sexologist Denise Renye explains, fantasies don’t always mean you want to act them out — sometimes they’re just a way to tap into your imagination or indulge in some sexy daydreaming.

You might find that some fantasies are purely private, others you want to explore with porn or dirty talk, and some you may even want to try in real life. And guess what? All of that is perfectly valid. There’s no “right” or “wrong” when it comes to what you desire in your fantasies.

How to Talk About Your Fantasies With Your Partner

Want to share your fantasies with your partner but unsure how to start? Here are expert tips to make that conversation easier and more fun:

1. Check in with yourself first. Make sure you want to bring a fantasy to life for you, not just to please your partner. If you’re unsure, try “fantasy window shopping” through sexting, dirty talk, or watching porn to get a sense of how excited you feel about it.
2. Decide if you want to talk about it. Not every fantasy needs to be shared. But if you want to try something together, you’ll need to break the ice. Think about what you want your partner to understand — is it closeness, excitement, or just curiosity?
3. Pick the right time and place. Bring it up in a relaxed, private moment — maybe on a cozy date night — rather than in the heat of the moment or when either of you is distracted or tipsy.
4. Make it playful. Share your fantasies in a lighthearted way. You can start by saying something like, “I had the hottest dream about you last night...” This can make it easier to gauge your partner’s interest without pressure.
5. Respect their response. Sometimes your partner will be totally on board, other times not so much — and that’s okay. Sexual compatibility is about finding common ground and mutual pleasure, not sharing every fantasy exactly.

Safely Exploring Your Sexual Fantasies

If you’re ready to explore your fantasies together, safety and consent are key:

• Do your homework. Some fantasies, like BDSM or public sex, come with risks or require special knowledge and equipment. Learn the ropes (literally, if it’s bondage!) before jumping in.
• Set clear boundaries. Talk openly about limits and hard “no’s” before you begin. For example, you might be okay with some spanking but not with anything involving humiliation. Clear communication keeps everyone comfortable and safe.
• Choose a safe word. Pick a word you’d never say in the heat of passion — like “tiramisu” or “pineapple” — that can instantly stop the action if things get uncomfortable.
• Don’t forget aftercare. Aftercare means taking care of each other emotionally and physically once your fantasy play is over. Whether that’s cuddling, soothing sore spots, or sharing a laugh, it strengthens your connection.

Popular Fantasies Women Are Loving Right Now

To spark your imagination, we asked 38 women to reveal their hottest fantasies. Here’s a sneak peek at some favorites:

• Laundry room love: Getting caught in the act while doing chores adds a thrilling sense of risk.
• Boss and employee: Secret office encounters with power dynamics turn up the heat.
• Role-play royalty: Dressing up and acting out a Bridgerton-style affair transports you to another era.
• Lesbian strap-on play: Exploring new sensations and dynamics with a partner.
• Public sex (in discreet places): The excitement of possibly being seen can be a major turn-on.

Whatever your fantasies, remember they’re a natural way to connect with your desires and your partner — or simply enjoy your own private playground. Ready to bring your fantasies to life? Take it slow, communicate clearly, and most importantly — have fun.

1. Voyeurism
“I’ve always been curious about watching my partner with someone else. Not sure why exactly — and honestly, I might not even enjoy it fully in the moment — but there’s something thrilling about being completely out of the picture. Sex is so intimate, and seeing my partner with another person feels even more private, yet it turns me on like nothing else.”
— Mia*, 24

2. Library Sex
“My ultimate fantasy is sneaking some steamy moments in a quiet library. It starts with a charged tension as we sit side by side, pretending to study but stealing glances. One of us searches for a book, the other gets playful, and soon we’re chasing each other between shelves until we finally meet in the middle… then you can guess what happens.”
— Emily*, 23

3. Sex with a Younger Man
“I’ve mostly dated people my age or older, but now that I’m stepping into ‘cougar’ territory, I’m obsessed with the idea of being with a guy young enough to be my son — around 21 — and just making his world spin.”
— Vanessa*, 40

4. Secret Sexy Zoom Sex
“One of my hottest fantasies is going down on my partner while he’s locked in an important Zoom meeting (with cameras on, naturally). The idea of him trying to keep a straight face while I’m beneath him, about to make him climax right in front of his coworkers — the power and secrecy of it all drives me wild.”
— Alexa, 33

5. Double Penetration
“Double vaginal penetration is a fantasy I haven’t tried yet — only seen in videos — but the thought of being totally filled and stretched out just does something to me.”
— Lauren*, 26

6. Hot Doctor
“I fantasize about being examined by a sexy OB/GYN. It starts with fingers and a speculum, but then the doctor decides a more thorough ‘examination’ with his cock is necessary.”
— Ashley*, 32

7. Consensual Non-Consent
“I’ve been getting more interested in consensual non-consent (CNC). I read stories and fantasies about it but haven’t tried it myself yet. The idea of someone wanting me so badly they just take me like an animal — that’s incredibly hot.”
— Trish*, 26

8. Sexy Tattoo Session
“I don’t have tattoos, and I don’t think I want any, but I’m turned on by the idea of a hot stranger tattooing me. In my fantasy, a badass woman at a tattoo parlor takes control, tattooing whatever she wants, branding me. Giving my body to someone like that feels deeply erotic.”
— Sara*, 33

9. Taboo Sex
“I once fantasized about having sex with my ex’s adult daughter (he’s much older with grown kids). There was nothing romantic between us, but the taboo nature of it was intoxicating, like a dirty secret I kept just for myself.”
— Jenna*, 25

10. Golden Showers
“My partner once suggested piss play: him cumming on my face, then peeing on it to ‘clean up.’ I was skeptical, but after trying it, I was shocked at how hot it was. Definitely want to do it again.”
— Stella*, 26

11. The Boy Next Door
“There’s this scene from ‘The Boy Next Door’ that always turns me on. It’s about a young guy who seduces a recently separated teacher. The secret seduction, the thrill of having sex with the neighbor — it’s my ultimate fantasy.”
— Kristina, 22

12. Orgies and Group Sex
“I’ve always wanted to join an orgy — one with all women, and another mixed with men. The idea of swapping partners in a wild, passionate group is incredibly sexy.”
— Charlotte*, 35

13. Gang Bang Party
“My dream is to throw a massive sex party where everyone is there just to fuck me. The place would have loud music, dark lighting, and lots of space for everyone to enjoy themselves. I’d pick who gets to join me, and the night would be endless pleasure.”
— Danellia, 33

14. Lesbian Sex!
“I love fantasizing about my partner with other women. I might not want to try it in real life, but it’s exciting to imagine. I also want to explore role-playing and dominance, which is opposite of how I usually am.”
— Avery*, 25

15. All Kinds of Role Play
“My fantasy is a sexy role-playing adventure with my partner at every beach we visit — trying kinks like fire play, wax, flogging, and more. We pretend to be strangers, taking on new characters every time.”
— Dawn, 28

16. Ancient Orgies
“I imagine a lavish ancient Roman orgy — rich foods, wine, entertainment, and endless sex. I’m chained or handcuffed, like a toy for pleasure. Being used and adored in every way feels intoxicating.”
— Naomi*, 29

17. Hooking Up with a Professor
“I had a professor in college with whom I shared sexual tension. My fantasy is sneaking sex in his office, on his desk, while others are nearby. The power dynamic is a huge turn-on.”
— Bella*, 24

18. MFM Threesome
“I’ve always wanted a threesome with two hot guys giving me all the attention — tied up, blindfolded, exploring every inch of me. Bonus if we film it all!”
— Sarah, 24

19. Vibrating Panties
“My hottest fantasy is total control — my partner wearing vibrating panties in public and deciding everything that happens, then taking me somewhere private to finish things off. I love the power exchange.”
— Zoey*, 27

20. Sex on the Roof
“I’m curious about having sex on a rooftop — somewhere high up with a view, where the risk of getting caught adds to the thrill. It’s outrageous but doable, and I want to say I’ve done it.”
— Mikayla, 25

21. Dressing Room Sex
“I fantasize about visiting an actress backstage, worshipping her in her dressing room. I wonder how she feels going home afterward and acting normal.”
— Ellie*, 33

22. Sex with an Ex
“I often daydream about reconnecting with an ex and having wild, endless sex in all the familiar places — the kitchen, shower, couch, everywhere.”
— Karla, 36

23. Bathroom Bang
“I’ve always wanted to have sex in a public bathroom but worry about getting caught or arrested.”
— Ava*, 25

24. Laundry Room Sex
“The laundry room is oddly sexy to me. I imagine meeting someone there, exchanging glances, and then having steamy sex right by the machines while clothes tumble.”
— Paola, 34

25. House of Horny Mirrors
“My wildest fantasy is hooking up in a house of mirrors — seeing myself from every angle during sex, making everything trippy and erotic.”
— Natalie*, 24

26. Sex Playlist
“A killer playlist makes or breaks sex for me. I’d love to wear headphones and lose myself in music while my partner goes down on me, blocking out distractions and turning up the pleasure.”
— Vanessa*, 29

27. Secret Office Affair
“I fantasize about sneaking around the office after hours with a colleague. The thrill of being caught makes everything hotter — a quickie by the copier, whispered promises in the break room.”
— Lindsey, 27

28. Strangers in a Bar
“Meeting a stranger in a dimly lit bar, exchanging glances and leading to a wild night together — no names, no strings, just pure raw connection.”
— Gina*, 26

29. Outdoor Public Sex
“Having sex outdoors — in a park, on a beach, or even on a balcony — with the risk of being seen is incredibly exciting. The feeling of nature around us heightens every touch.”
— Tara, 28

30. BDSM Domination
“Being completely at my partner’s mercy — bound, teased, and obeying every command — is a fantasy that blends trust and submission in the most erotic way.”
— Monica*, 31

31. Teacher/Student Role Play
“Playing the forbidden teacher and student game is a classic for a reason — the tension, power imbalance, and secret lessons are incredibly hot.”
— Chloe*, 22

32. Voyeuristic Exhibitionism
“I love the idea of being watched during sex — either by one person or an audience. Knowing someone is watching turns me on like nothing else.”
— Jasmine*, 29

33. Sensory Deprivation
“Blindfolds, headphones, restraints — cutting off one sense heightens the others and makes every touch electric.”
— Claire, 30

34. Shower Sex
“Making love under running water — slippery skin, warm streams, and steamy eyes — is a classic fantasy that never loses its appeal.”
— Melissa*, 27

35. Striptease and Lap Dance
“Performing a slow, sultry striptease or lap dance for my partner, feeling their eyes on me as I tease and tantalize, is a fantasy I play with often.”
— Nina*, 28

36. Erotic Massage
“I fantasize about a long, sensual massage that slowly leads to full-body pleasure. The mix of relaxation and desire makes it unforgettable.”
— Emma*, 26